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No matter what you do, who you see, or what you read in order to find ways to change your life, one thing requires understanding and acceptance: the responsibility for change is always and in all ways yours, and no one else’s. It doesn’t matter how much money you spend, there is no magic wand or pill that produces permanent change. With tools you can easily learn to use, YOU are the change-agent, and YOU are what changes - not the world or anyone else in it. And a lot of people working on their own give up too soon because they don’t understand this, or don’t accept it. For them, the elusive magic dust is always just out of reach.

Think of it this way - which option sounds achievable: changing the world around you, including people, or changing yourself and the way you perceive and interact with that world and those people?

If you chose the first option, be prepared to battle endlessly to change what can’t be changed, and to lose that battle. On the other hand, if you chose the latter, you’re correct, AND realistic in your expectations, and if you decide to change yourself by finding the tools that will help you, and using them, you’ll succeed in your undertaking.

When I work with clients, I share this responsibility in the beginning of our work together. In addition to being guided through a process of change, they learn how to use the tools that will work most effectively for them in “hard-wiring” the changes we make together. They also learn that they can use these tools on their own for the rest of their lives to make what I call “course corrections” along the way. It’s up to my client, however, to do the work of using the tools to maintain the changes and continue to grow.

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